Friendships are one of the most important things in our society. A lot of people want to communicate and feel understood, but it may take time to move from knowing each others names to being friends. Once you have established a good friendship though, they can become a second family! Of course everyone has a different idea about what makes someone a real friend, but we’ll tell all the ways so that you know who really is on your side!
1. Real friends are always there for you
Regardless of whether they agree with you or not, they will always be there to help you. They support you through your difficult life situations. You can always call if you need help or have problems; even in crisis, they’ll be at your side.
2. They love you for who you are
True friends love you for who you are and accept your quirks. They don’t want to change anything about you, nor do they pressure you into wearing something to please their eye. Friends should be there to support us with our flaws, which is why it doesn’t matter what we look or sound like, as long as we’re happy!
3. Real friends are always honest with you
Lying should be a rare occurrence in your friendships. If you don’t have time to meet, you can tell them straight to their face! Or if you try on a dress and it doesn’t suit you, they’ll tell you.
4. They are not jealous
Whether you are lucky or successful and your friends have a bad day; your real friends celebrate with you. Envy doesn’t matter. Mutual encouragement is the top priority. You should rather banish envious people from your life; these types of people cannot be happy for you and cheer your success on.
5. They listen to you
No matter what you have to say, real friends listen to you. If they still know important details from the last conversation after a long time, then you can be sure that they listened carefully and had interest in hearing about your day. This means that you are important to them and shows some level of care for who you are as an individual!
6. Real friends encourage you
When you don’t know what to do, and everything is difficult for you, your friends encourage and help. They reinforce your confidence, are empathic and give (good) advice. Or at least they are understanding and there for you if things get though.
7. They can laugh and cry with you
You have your inside jokes and you can laugh at mundane things. If you also share the same sense of humor, it’s better than gold! It is just as important that you can cry in front of one another. Emotions should accompany every friendship- they stand for trust and intimacy.
8. They trust you with everything
They won’t hide anything from you, no matter what. Real friends tell you about their mistakes and downsides as well. In a true friendship, they’ll know that your secrets are safe with them. And vice versa! If the trust is mutual then it’s a real friendship.
9. They always keep you up to date
You’ll be the first to get any new updates from them. Even if you haven’t heard from each other for a while and planned to get in touch, they’ll keep you informed of news anyway.
10. They feel when you are not feeling well
Friends who are real to you will know when you’re not doing well, even if you put on a brave face and say that everything is all right. They sense when something’s off, and they try their best to help and / or cheer you up.
11. They argue and forgive
In a relationship, quarreling is acceptable. The only important thing in a friendship is the ability to forgive each other. If someone from your circle of friends has been angry about something for way too long and cannot forgive, then something is off. Maybe your friend needs some guidance. Maybe it’s not your truest friend.
Holding on to real friends
You should never just expect your friends to be there for you. You too need to put in the work and be a good friend as well! Friendship is like a relationship: it consists of give and take. Like a long burning fire it has to be nurtured. Finding someone with similar interests, values, or goals can’t always be easy. Maintain your friendships because they are worth it. Hold on tight!
Of course having all the signs of true friendship is great. But even if your friend only fulfills half or a fair share it’s worth to invest a little more. A person’s mind can grow and change. And a key to every relationship deeper than superficial friends is to make each other grow. There is a chance that your friend is holding back because she or he has been hurt or even betrayed. Maybe your friend (or you) need to mature in one aspect or another. Helping each other by overcoming deficits together results in deeper friendships.
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